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One Simple Way To Help Anxious And Explosive Kids

Are you struggling with anxious and explosive kids? Try this simple tip to lower anxiety and keep kids from falling apart.

A few years ago, one of my kids started to fall apart – big time. Every single day, with meltdowns or explosions that lasted for up to two hours. Thankfully, I was able to get help. This one simple tip transformed that child’s life, and today I’m sharing it in case it helps you.

One Simple Way To Help Anxious And Explosive Kids

Bewildered by my once happy and cheerful child’s sudden meltdowns and explosions, I talked to someone in the Massachusetts Early Intervention program. They explained that a lot of kids who fall apart are doing so out of anxiety. Kids fall apart less when they feel like they have some control over their day.

The truth is, kids, don’t have much control over their daily schedules. That’s just the reality of being a kid. But there are things we can do as parents to make them feel like they have a little more control.

How to Help Kids Take Control of Their Lives

The simplest way to help kids feel some sense of control over their lives is to let them know what to expect on a given day. Back in Massachusetts, when my child was falling apart, her daily schedule was very simple. Get up, eat breakfast, play, eat lunch, play, read a book (or five), dinner, bedtime. I drew pictures to represent each item and put them on a board. You can also buy visual schedules for homes. This daily calendar is a great option for early elementary kids.

Home Schedules for Older Kids

This spring, I printed out a planner – at that same child’s request. Meltdowns and anxiety attacks are pretty rare these days, but I was struck by how much they enjoyed filling out and then checking off the day’s schedule. I noticed that this child became better at scheduling their own time, requiring a lot less direction and intervention from me.

Use a daily planner to help kids combat anxiety and prevent explosive outbursts.


Do you want to try this out with your own children? Here is a simple planner page that you can use. You can print a page for each day, or put it in a picture frame to use with a dry erase or wet erase marker. Laminating works, too! I used our binding machine to make my child’s pages into a book, with a photo for a pretty cover. Here are the links to download the pages:

My eleven-year-old has her own planner printable, too.

One simple tip to helping anxious and explosive kids.

More Ways to Help Anxious and Explosive Kids

Here are some more techniques that I find helps anxious kids and prevents explosions:

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MaryAnne lives in Silicon Valley with her Stanford professor husband Mike and their four children. She writes about parenting through education, creativity, and play. Mama Smiles - Joyful Parenting is a space to share crafts, hands on learning activities, and family outings that enrich lives and bring families together.

7 thoughts on “One Simple Way To Help Anxious And Explosive Kids”

  1. One of my kiddos is obsessed with schedules. That can be tiring at times as I get asked for the tenth time that day how the day is going to go.

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